Welcome!! Grab a cup of coffee and visit with us! We hope you enjoy our story! (((HUGS)))

Welcome!! Grab a cup of coffee and visit with us! We hope you enjoy our story! (((HUGS)))

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Happy Thanksgiving!!

YUM!! Our "Turducken" is cooking! It takes only 7 hours!! LOL!!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! 

We are watching the National Dog Show on TV today! We are "dog" people!

We've had a few sad things happen here this month, so I've had very little time for posting. We are grieving and our hearts are healing. We do not grieve as those who have no hope. December looks like a wonderful month for us with lots of new and exciting things!

Last week we were asked if CC (above) and TA (below) could come for a visit and spend Thanksgiving with us. They are brothers ages 12 & 13. CC is the oldest but shorter. We said yes of course! 

SP's family also called to say that her brother was not well, and her brother in law also went home with Jesus. So they wondered if she could please stay with us for Thanksgiving. Of course we said yes. MA is always with us every holiday so we do miss SP when her family takes her.

Tom is the best Dad ever. 
He has all of the patience and LOVE both boys need. I'm not up to help much with their needs because they are too strong physically for me. Tom sleeps outside their bedroom at night in case they need him. The boys are non verbal, and in diapers. 

Mercy and Julius wish that CC and TA weren't here . Samson, Noah, Moses, Jacob and Pauly are very curious about these "tall" boys!! And Faith, Lysa, Kitty and Isaiah are huge helpers as always! 


Tuesday, November 3, 2015

My Five pumpkins!

Mercy as usual refuses to pose. 
My 5 precious boys grudgingly complied with my request.
Sweet Pauly (8) and Moses (10)

 Different hat for Pauly.

 These two are the most huggable and squishable! Altho Moses would beg to differ! LOL!

 Julius (8) aka Mr Smarty Pants! He's not impressed!

His favorite "pose face"! :o)

 Cute as a button.......... and he knows it!

 Noah (12) Jacob (10)
Horror upon horrors! Jacob was not happy. Poor Noah looks away thinking "What's up with this guy!"
We think Noah's clasped hands are praying for Jacob to stop !

Ooops! Darn hats and little heads. 

 Noah always finds something to smile about!
You can measure how upset Jacob is by how far his tongue sticks out! He can stick it out reeeeeally far!

                                                   Crocodile tears- oh my!

Dad to the rescue. He reasons with Jacob. Goodness knows he's not dying! LOL! Even Noah thinks "yeah- why? are you crying?"

But Jacob is a pro at pouting! Can't stop now!

                                             Poor Noah not that darn hat again!

                                                                Phew! Fixed!

 Noah wonders how long Jacob will make us wait!

Nope, no happy face, not even for Dad.
Not the most exciting pictures. But happy memories for us!

Monday, October 26, 2015

Miss Mercy our Princess LOVE!

Big sister Kitty took these pictures of Mercy for me. 
Last month Mercy turned 8!
Her teeth are loose and she is very upset by this. She stops eating if they "hurt". 

Mercy's new best friend, our 5 month old kitten Violet. Violet is the one member of the family we know she likes.

Mercy is going through a "remove all clothing" phase. So we put the leotard over to discourage her. It wouldn't be so bad for her to remove her clothes, but if her skin is exposed she bites herself quite hard. So we must be vigilant!

That is just one of her many self injurious behaviors. We have not found a supplement or medication to help yet. And there may not be one.

I wish I could say we've made a lot of progress in her schooling, her independence, her relationships here. But she hasn't. She isn't interested in learning. She refuses to pick up, put her dishes in the sink, carry her laundry. So we do it all hand over hand. If she's angry she throws- her spoon or a brother's plate, whatever she can reach. And then she throws- and throws and throws. 

She isn't interested in "talking". She's rejected every adaptive speech device we've tried. She doesn't like electronics, ipads, computers or TV.

She doesn't like getting her hair cut so it takes me about a week of snipping at her here and there to get it cut. She refuses to have it brushed and prefers to wipe her meals in it!

She doesn't help us much in figuring out what she wants. We have to guess what she likes. If we are wrong she tantrums. If we are right we get a smile that makes it all worth it.

If we let her, she either semi- sits on the floor and drops an object to the floor, over and over, watching it for hours. Or she curls up on the floor under a dresser or a desk to sleep. She does not like sleeping in a bed.

We encourage her to be "with" us. Sometimes that means having her sit buckled into her little Rifton floor chair for a story. Just so she'll stay near. Isolating herself isn't good for her.
Sometimes we put a gate up in the door way so she can't run away from us and we set out school supplies for lesson time. :o) She'll pace and complain. After about 15 minutes we end her session, let her out and try later.

We aren't put off by her behaviors. Because we LOVE her. We don't need her to LOVE us back for us to LOVE her. We know kids with Sotos Syndrome have behaviors. We don't take it personally. 

So far every difficult behavior she's had we've been able to brain storm and work through it. That gives us hope! Hope that we can be her family. Mercy doesn't understand what family is after living only a year in each home. Next March we will celebrate 3 years of Mercy joining our family! :o) 

I feel more bonded and relaxed with her every year. As an adoptive mom you wonder, you second guess yourself with challenging children. A lot of my second guessing was looking at things with a negative perspective. I would think of how I must not be doing a good enough job if she doesn't respond. That's just not true. I changed my perspective, and realized I'm doing a good job. Mercy's challenges are not coming from my falling short in my parenting. Her challenges are just that, challenges. :o)

We thank God that with His help we are her parents, the parents He chose for her. She is fearfully and wonderfully made! 

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Ride 'em cowboy!

 We found the perfect "simple" rider for Moses! The pedals are too far up for his feet which is perfect for him. He can't pedal. yet. He will. For now he likes to pull himself forward with his feet along the floor. For now pulling with his legs is what he taught himself. Not even Julius yet understands pulling forward with your legs and feet. And Julius understands so much more coming home 3 years younger than Moses.

But watch out! He'll ride into the back of your legs!! He's fast!

 He can go forward and backward!

 Taking a break to think!

 Even in tight spaces like the hall way!

Yelling back to his brothers to come watch him! But they don't dare!

 Nope, nobody coming! :o)

Cutest shot ever of my sweet boy!

Jacob continues to recover amazingly well! Please forgive me for not answering personal e-mails. These first 7 days of recovery have been overwhelming.
One unusual, but wonderful thing we noticed today is how "fast" Jacob does things now. He used to move from activity to activity slowly. He used to stare off into space between things. Now he is very sharp, responding so quickly to my verbal prompts for him. And even trying for the first time ever to feed himself!

Today 3 of the boys (Noah, Jacob, Moses) met one of their older brothers. A brother that had never had an interest in meeting them. This brother was the one who wrongly reported us for child abuse. It was good to see this son, to hug him and to share about the boys. We hope and pray that he will become a good example for the little boys. Who need all the LOVE they can get! Moses took it all in stride- he loves "guys", he loves showing off how he's a guy too! LOL! He was wearing his "In Charge" minion tshirt of course!

God IS Good! My heart rejoices in His Goodness. Giving God the Glory! Moment by moment, day by day!