Tuesday, February 2, 2016
We really miss him.
But the County was incredibly excited to get him into the first ever home for severely Autistic children in the State, with his brother. There will be 12 severely Autistic children living there.
This group home was developed and partially funded by a Dr/mom who could not find a "home" for her severely Autistic son. No he did not live with her. (yes I'm curious as to why) The County is giddy with glee to make this "new" Group Home work.
In an age where the Government is currently insisting on implementing "person centered living" for adults with disabilities. Threatening to close their "sheltered workshops" or DACs as we call them because they are to now be surrounded and supported by non-paid staff at every opportunity. These children will not be living "person centered lives".
And try telling MA and SP that they can no longer attend the Whitney Senior program for elderly adults with disabilities (MA) or their (SP's) only hope for earning money, her DAC is shutting down. They are 59 and 60 years old. They are expected to attend anything they want with the community (un-paid staff) fully supporting them. What a mess. They don't want this change.
We are supposed to give MA and SP "exactly" the life they want. (yes the State quibbles over the definitions of the meanings of words like "exactly"! OY!)
But we do this already for them and have made their wishes our goal to provide them. Now it's a law. We are mandated to do so. Seems redundant.
Yes he has Autism, he wears depends, he is non-verbal, he has challenging aggressive behaviors.
But he can function in a family.
He was learning how here and we were amazed.
Yes he hit, but he was learning not to hit here. Because he was learning how to socialize.
Our frustration is with those who do not understand him.
Where are his rights?
Most times he did those things just to leave school and come home. If they have the patience he would learn not to.
His para at school is a tiny little woman. CC does not respect women. He's 13, he has never learned how.
Poor CC who has not attended or received consistent schooling of any kind in 13 years needs public school, so why send him home??
We asked the County- we asked the school- doesn't he have any Educational Rights? He needs to be in public school. He does not need to come home!!!! He needs the supervision of public school to learn these social skills!!
We would support him if they would place in another family. We would take him as respite any time.
This way we'll never see him again.
Their minds are made up.
He is lost in the "system" now.
He'll imitate what he lives with and it will be 12 other severely Autistic children, with paid staff.
No "person centered" planning for a child like CC.
He'll grow stronger and more aggressive.
We thank God for him, he is an amazing little survivor.
Tuesday, January 26, 2016
I thought these were very cute. Pauly (8) lost his front teeth! Adorable! Out of the 6 youngest, Pauly has perfect teeth. Mercy's are good too.
Mercy has her visit with the new dentist all alone because it will be a challenge.
All five went to see the "new" dentist closer to home. (an hour away) And those that need extractions/surgery will drive 1 1/2 hours away to be put out.
We dressed the boys in their "They Searched the Whole World for Me" tshirts for their new dentist visit. Everyone fell in love with them! They thought we always dress them alike- ha! ha!
The good part is he will feel even better after the dental surgery, just like he did after his brain surgery. The sad part is that he has had to suffer so.
I know I'm biased, but these are the cutest boys on the planet! LOL!
They wrap my heart around their little fingers!
PRAISE God! We cannot remember life without them!
Sunday, January 17, 2016
Mercy (above) fell asleep in her time out chair! Isaiah took a second picture with the flash and she still didn't wake up!!
Isaiah used the flash here, I think its too bright and "washes" things out. :o(
Mosie sleeps with Olivia the pig. He loves her! LOL!! It was Mercy's toy- but she hated it! Mercy hates everything- LOL!
Julius at the end in red jammies, Lysa and Pauly, Zay and Noah.
In the back our 2nd aerogarden. Our small aerogarden (upstairs) has a huge tomato plant in it. This big one had herbs and now replanted with 4 tomato plants.
Tuesday, December 15, 2015
I remember the first time I learned that there were many little baby boys who were black, needing homes, twenty five years ago. The cost of adopting was reduced substantially just to place them. :o(
And then four years ago I learned fewer boys with disabilities were adopted. And I've never understood why.
I LOVE my girls, I LOVE knowing how they think. Their hopes and dreams. I'm so glad the Lord blessed us with both. But choosing one over the other, I just can't.
Unless one is the underdog. And I think boys get a bad rap.
There is an order to everything. Each block has a meaning. You know he likes you if he shares.
This weekend we had to tell the children our decision for TA.
It was hard.
The girls (Faith 14, Lysa 13, Kitty 12) understood. We need their help. But the girls can't help with the personal needs of a 12 year old boy, taller than them, stronger, aggressive. He will need strong male caregivers in his home. TA overpowers Isaiah and me together.
Later he told the girls that when he grows up he's going to find TA and adopt him.
They told me and I cried.
Isaiah's heart is so tender. He has so much LOVE for the underdog. He has a HUGE desire to serve the Lord helping those who need.
There are adult siblings that will never know him, and I'm sad for their loss. Nieces and Nephews who are forbidden to visit him.
But the Lord Himself surely GIFTS Isaiah with many more family members than we imagined he'd have. And I can honestly say that all of us in this family adore him!!
In the photo above, CC, (13 yrs) a sweet young man with Autism who mostly chooses not to touch or hug, puts his arm around our/his LOVE Isaiah. And CC is smiling. I just LOVE CC's heart for LOVING Isaiah!
(once when Tom tried to hug CC he punched him!!)
We THANK God for our boys!!
(I wish I could show you the smile on CC's face in the picture above but due to his privacy we can't.)